The most brilliant definition of persistence ever:
“Persistence isn’t using the same tactics over and over. That’s just annoying. Persistence is having the same goal over and over.” – Seth Godin
(I hate to quote someone’s entire post, but I guess it’s OK if the post is only 21 words.)
Many things require persistence. We’re usually not good at something the first time we try it, and as we all know, practice makes perfect (or if you prefer, practice makes for improvement).
Persistence gets tricky when other people are involved. Someone often won’t do something the first time we ask. That’s why commercials have to run more than once. It’s hard to get someone’s attention, get them interested in doing what we want them to do, have them make time to do it, etc. So we often have to ask more than once.
But how do you ask more than once? Do you just say the same thing over and over again? After all, it eventually worked for Bart and Lisa Simpson with their “Will you take us to Mount Splashmore? Will you take us to Mount Splashmore? Will you take us to Mount Splashmore? Will you take us to Mount Splashmore? Will you take us to Mount Splashmore? Will you take us to Mount Splashmore? Will you take us to Mount Splashmore? Will you take us to Mount Splashmore?”
But using the same tactics over and over can get very annoying. Even if it somehow works the first time, you’re likely to burn bridges in the process, and then it won’t work a second time. Is there a better way of being persistent when asking others for help?
When I wrote The Zen of Blogging, it was well received by those who read it, but with only 20 subscribers, I knew I wasn’t going to get it in front of many people by just posting it to my blog.
On the other hand, if I could get it in front of Darren Rowse of ProBlogger, I thought there was a good chance he’d write a post about it (after all, it’s relevant to his audience). And then I’d get a flood of highly targeted traffic, people interested in blogging, referred by someone who has a reputation as a blogging expert. It was the best promotional opportunity I could hope for.
But how could I grab Darren’s attention? How do you get noticed by someone who gets a thousand emails per second when they don’t know who you are?
First, I left some comments on his blog. While busy bloggers don’t respond to many comments, they probably read most if not all of them. I wanted Darren to see my name and know me as someone who leaves decent comments. This would hopefully make it more likely that he would read the email I was going to send him.
And then I ran into a serious obstacle. Darren wrote a post saying he was going out of town. He wasn’t going to be reachable when my ebook was released.
But another opportunity presented itself. Darren gave an open invitation for guest bloggers to help him keep up the posting while he was gone. If I could have a guest post published, I could put a link to my ebook at the bottom of the post. But the competition was fierce, and my post wasn’t chosen (at least not at the time; it could possibly be chosen down the road).
When I released my ebook, I emailed Darren even though I knew he wasn’t around. I quickly introduced myself, said I knew he was gone but I wanted to tell him about my ebook, and then, most importantly, I told him why he should care. Just a couple of sentences explaining why I thought my ebook would interest him personally, and why it would interest his readers.
When I didn’t get a response, that’s where many people would either (1) give up, or (2) keep emailing him to ask “Did you read my ebook yet? What about now? What about now?” I didn’t want to give up, but I knew that emailing him over and over would just be annoying. So I decided that now just wasn’t the time, and I’d come back to him later. (Some people would have emailed him again after a few days, which I think would have been OK, but I chose not to.)
I saw an opportunity when Darren posted that he had just gotten some help with cleaning up his email inbox from Leo Babauta of Zen Habits. Leo helped him develop a system for dealing with the massive pile of emails he already had (most likely deleting them), and for managing his future emails more efficiently. Darren said he was sorry if he hadn’t gotten back to anyone, but he invited people to resend any emails he might have missed before “the great email culling of 2008.”
So I just emailed him again, saying I was taking him up on his offer to resend emails he might have missed. I told him about my ebook, and now I had some good testimonials to include to get him interested. He wrote back to confirm he got my email, and had added my ebook to his longish list of things to check out. A couple of days later, he posted about it, the traffic starting pouring in, and I had one of my biggest breakthroughs as a blogger.
This happened not because I used the same tactics over and over, but because I had the same goal over and over.