Comments on: Let’s Agree To Disagree

By: Hunter Nuttall

Hunter Nuttall — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 01:40:11 +0000

@ Ari, but do you find that offenders care about the policy? If I were going to spam someone (which I wouldn’t), I wouldn’t check to see if it conflicted with their policy.

@ Chad, I agree, there’s not enough rational thought out there.

@ Heather, I haven’t seen these comments you’re talking about, but they sound way over the line, obviously. At some point, I think deleting comments is fine if they don’t add anything to the conversation.

@ Akemi, I saw both those comments. Pretty tame compared to some I’ve seen, but I guess people can react negatively to things they’re not used to, especially when you’re suggesting action.

By: Akemi - Yes to Me

Akemi - Yes to Me — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 22:49:49 +0000

Hi Hunter, I didn't get "Intuition is crap" comment when I wrote about intuition at PTB, but I did get comment from someone who thinks intuition is just another form of inductive reasoning done in the subconscious. That was an eye-opener -- I didn't know that kind of interpretation even existed. I just did another guest post there about space clearing, and this time the negativity is stronger. You know why? Because this post suggests very doable actions to improve their lives -- so they need to disagree to stay in their comfort zone ^_^ Quite interesting to watch. Akemi - Yes to Me´s last blog post..Success Secrets And The Catch

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 21:58:02 +0000

I both enjoy reading disagreeing positions and posting them myself when I do disagree but there is a way to disagree and share your opinion or present dissenting facts and a way to come across completely unprofessional and even inhumane. I have actually read comments on blogs lately where people said incredibly nasty things regarding a person that had been killed, and they did not even know the person; just read the story and inferred what kind of person they were and then said horrible things. Also lately, there have actually been threats posted to the writers of certain columns and other equally mean and terrible things like that. It is only my opinion but I don’t read postings, columns, articles, etc that really warrant anyone threatening anyone so it surprises me that instead of just saying anything at all if they don’t like the author, they post horrendous stuff (and don’t use their name of course). Again, great reminder that there is a way to post and a way to disagree and it is the professional and respectful way.

By: Jim Gaudet

Jim Gaudet — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 14:50:09 +0000

@Chad – well said. I have nothing to add, except I agree.

Jim Gaudet´s last blog post..This is Way too Personal�

By: Chad @ sentient money

Chad @ sentient money — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 13:38:40 +0000

Disagreements are always more fun, except when the other person's argument comes from emotion or belief. Just because someone "believes" a certain view is better is not enough. They need to back up this "belief" with actual facts or rational thought. This is where we, as a society, have lost our way. We (not everyone of course) seem to have grown lazy with our arguments and have beliefs instead of informed opinions. Chad @ sentient money´s last blog post..A Rebound Built on Sand

By: Ari Herzog

Ari Herzog — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 07:55:24 +0000

I argue every blog owner should have a blog comment policy. You can see mine by clicking my name above, and then visiting my "policies" tab at the top. That way, any question, I can point offenders to the policy. Ari Herzog´s last blog post..Share Inspiration

By: Hunter Nuttall

Hunter Nuttall — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 06:53:15 +0000

@ Heather, strong opinions can easily cause conflict, can’t they? That’s why it’s important to be careful about how we express them. We don’t need more enemies than necessary.

@ Conrad, good one! You had me going there for a split second.

@ Akemi, oh yeah, PTB definitely has a different audience from what you have at your blog. Of course, you’ll get some people saying “intuition is crap.” If they would only rephrase that in a more constructive manner, we’d all benefit from a much better discussion in the comments.

@ Jim, hmmm…if I deleted you, no one would get the joke because they wouldn’t know you said to delete you! I guess LOUD or ANGRY or ALL CAPS is a sign that we’re TAKING THINGS TOO FAR!

By: Jim Gaudet

Jim Gaudet — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 04:31:19 +0000

Delete me, I dare you… OK, I am just kidding..

Anyway, excellent post (damn it, I wanted to disagree with you!).

I actually have a little to add to this, but it is not for blogging. I was the new network administrator at a health care organization (pretty big, covered all of VT and NH). When I was hired, I was told that I needed to hire my own IT team. SWEET. I loved that idea. So here is how my interview went with potential employees;

I made sure tell everyone who worked for me ( and the ones I hired are still there) that we ARE GOING TO DISAGREE. Guaranteed. And that it only matters how we handle the situation. I let them know that I am the boss, but I ALWAYS listen to ideas. I am very open to anyone’s ideas because I know that I cannot do everything myself and will need to TRUST the people that work for me.If they do not open their mouths, I don’t know what’s up.

But, I don’t get LOUD or ANGRY with anyone, I will however send you ass home if you get loud with me (that was hard because I was 24 and my employees were older than me.

So I take this with me to the comment section. I find know good in arguing, I will make a point if I am correct (with proof, not just in my mind) otherwise, I shut up and go do some research….

Damn, sorry that was long. I have had a long day…

Jim Gaudet´s last blog post..A Realist Take on The Secret and The Law of Attraction

By: Akemi - Yes to Me

Akemi - Yes to Me — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 02:41:25 +0000

Great post!!! Okay, that wasn't very interesting, I guess. As a blogger myself, I find disagreeing comments interesting. This is one of the reasons I like guest posting at Pick The Brain -- their readers have very different ideas compared to my own reader who typically have done some spiritual development already. The problem is when they become manipulative. This can be done in a short tactful way that still hurt others badly. Akemi - Yes to Me´s last blog post..Freedom From The Fear Of Death

By: Conrad Hees

Conrad Hees — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 01:04:11 +0000

Nice post , Hunter, I like what you said about trying to agree before you disagree. That is a great way to have a constructive conversation, because that way they feel their opinion is valued, right before you show them it is wrong.

Kidding!

Conrad Hees´s last blog post..How Willing Are You to Invest in Yourself?