Comments on: How To Give And Receive Advice (With Minimal Casualties)

By: 44 Essential Personal Development Posts from ‘08

44 Essential Personal Development Posts from ‘08 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 12:22:05 +0000

[...] How to Give and Receive Advice (With Minimal Casualties) – Hunter Nuttall [...]

By: Hunter Nuttall

Hunter Nuttall — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 02:23:07 +0000

@ Dot, that sounds like an interesting book. I’ll keep it in mind for future reading.

@ Marelisa, I don’t attend the juggling club much anymore, but I still practice sometimes. Yeah, I saw juggling on your life list, and thought it was a good idea!

By: Marelisa

Marelisa — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 02:03:58 +0000

Hi Hunter: I didn’t know you were in a juggling club. Learning to juggle is one pf the items on my life list which I hope to cross off in 2009. I’ve never paid much attention to the length of men’s ties, but I’ll try to take more notice in the future. More and more my life motto is “Live and let live”.

By: Dot

Dot — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 22:00:00 +0000

The book I was referring to is "You Just Don't Understand," by Georgetown University linguistics professor Deborah Tannen. There's a slight possibility that I was actually referring to "He Said, She Said," by the same author, since I've read both of them. She has since written more. After reading her books, I finally understood a whole variety of things my husband had been saying and doing that I hadn't understood. It also helped me understand a gay male co-worker who, when his boss asked how he was coming along with a project, got angry and said to me, "Why is she disrespecting me like this? If she didn't trust me with the project, she shouldn't have given it to me." After reading Tannen, I understood where this out-of-the-blue (to me) comment came from. Dot´s last blog post..How to Get Published, Part 2

By: Most Essential Step to Starting a Small Business is Failure

Most Essential Step to Starting a Small Business is Failure — Mon, 22 Dec 2008 19:08:51 +0000

[...] way to inflate self doubt is to begin �shopping� your idea to family and friends for their advice. If your family and friends are your greatest cheerleaders and/or potential customers for your new [...]

By: How Do You React When Folk Are Mean?

How Do You React When Folk Are Mean? — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 08:03:19 +0000

[...] How To Give And Receive Advice (With Minimal Casualties): Hunter Nuttall discusses how to deal with bad advice. When do we say “thank you” but no “thank you”. And how do we deal with obscene attacks from deranged cowards? [...]

By: Chad @ Sentient Money

Chad @ Sentient Money — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 22:12:22 +0000

@ Hunter, you are probably right, concerning the low number of comments on my blog. Plus, I don't write enough right now to get a lot of traffic. Chad @ Sentient Money´s last blog post..A Rebound Built on Sand

By: Hunter Nuttall

Hunter Nuttall — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 18:32:31 +0000

@ Chad, I think you get few comments just because you write about complicated stuff. I see you analyzing the numbers, and I think “OK, I guess the economy’s in bad shape,” but I don’t have anything useful to add. I’m inclined to agree with you about responding to interesting comments (or comments where the person has asked me a question). Even Darren Rowse responds to some comments, he’s just very selective about it.

@ Cath, no, not at all. You never overwhelmed me with suggestions, and your advice was interesting because it was stuff I hadn’t thought about before. I even acted on at least some of it. Now, it would be different if you flooded me with advice, and came off meaner, and gave bad tips! Yeah, that comment wasn’t the classiest in the world, but I can deal with that pretty well.

By: Cath Lawson

Cath Lawson — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 17:03:40 +0000

Hi Hunter – as someone who has given you advice in the past, I hope I haven’t made you feel that you’ve got to do what I say. I wouldn’t be annoyed if you ignored me. I give you advice to help you – not to make you feel bad.

That comment you were left was really low. It’s tough not to let that type of thing get to you but as you say – there’s no point listening to the opinion of a mentally unstable coward on crack.

By: Chad @ Sentient Money

Chad @ Sentient Money — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 03:02:04 +0000

That is a legit question. I don't think you or any writer should make an effort to answer them all, as not all responses are interesting enough to warrant a response (including mine). I do think blog hosts should check out comments on recent posts (1-3 days) continually and respond to interesting comments. Personally, I always check out comments I make at blogs I like, even when the comments aren't special. I crave the discussion, even if it's very confrontational. Opposing opinion interests me from people I respect, whether it's the blog host or other commentors. I have very few comments on my blog, so it's easy for me to say. Chad @ Sentient Money´s last blog post..A Rebound Built on Sand