good idea……I’m more of a silent leader if you will and I think most are not used to that style of leadership/management. I think most are used to the loud, big mouth, larger than life figure. I think being a silent leader makes some feel uncomfortable.

With that comes all of the personal questions-the people are trying to figure me out. I’ve been dealing with that all of my life. They can’t crack the code to this Safe…LOL.

I’ll try your suggestions. That’ll be tough for me because it leads to small talk but it’s a good idea.

Maybe Mr. Nuttall will chime in and offer up some of his cutting edge thinking!

Thanks Ken

You probably already know this, but might it be worthwhile to have ready answers for Extroverts for standard questions like, “what’s up for you this weekend?”

I was thinking you might be able to come up with something decent sounding without revealing anything personal.

Perhaps, “Oh, just the usual stuff.” Or even, this weekend? Same old, same old.

Great post, as usual. I was searching for info about ways of dealing with my introversion, correction, ways of helping extraverts deal with my introversion. Extraverts seem to be fascinated or at least interested in getting introverts “to be more open” or as I like to put it, I should make them feel more comfortable considering they can’t do that for themselves.

I’m involved in business daily and I can turn the introversion switch off long enough to get things done but what I have to work on is my patience when dealing with extraverts. I get tired mentally when dealing with extraverts and sometimes I can be very short and it comes across as being kind of snide.

It’s the issue of personal space and the feeling that extraverts have no problems invading it and feel it’s their right to do so with small talk, endless questions, more small talk and yammering about nothing(usually they’re going on and on about themselves = Talking about nothing).

I’m one of those guys that doesn’t like the “do you have plans for the weekend?” question, not to mention any question that involves me revealing anything about any aspect of my personal life. I’m a very private person and that does not rub the extraverts too well.

Anyway enough of my blabbing…….great post as always. It’s great to hear fresh thoughts and new ideas.

Ron

Perhaps people should learn, after all this time, that people aren’t the same.

It also seems like you’re kind of advertising. If that’s the case, I don’t like that.

Hunter, I hope that it’s alright that I registered my feelings about what JT said. I simply felt that up till now, this wonderful discussion has not been about acting a different way than you are.

I think most people’s motivations are not nefarious and that they believe they are doing the right thing. Whether or not they are doing the right thing, as you pointed out, Jonny, is another thing.

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