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By: Let’s Live Forever! » Blog Archive » Together forever

Let’s Live Forever! » Blog Archive » Together forever — Thu, 22 May 2008 23:51:17 +0000

[...] most excited that Hunter from Hunter Nutall.com picked up my previous post in his article Desegregating Our Minds, and took the discussion [...]

By: Hunter Nuttall

Hunter Nuttall — Wed, 21 May 2008 05:00:02 +0000

@ Evelyn, well put, we should use the traits that are most suitable for the situation.

@ Kip, thanks for sharing. That’s an unusual situation, and I’d consider it a breakthrough, not a breakdown. Good luck with the male energy!

@ Hayden, I guess you’re talking about Randy Pausch, right? Yes, it is a small world. Glad you found that amazing. I’m going to check out your blog post now.

By: Keep Your Tits Real « Persistent Illusion

Keep Your Tits Real « Persistent Illusion — Tue, 20 May 2008 16:39:58 +0000

[...] article on integrating the ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ parts of our mind, Desegregating Our Minds, that I finally got [...]

By: Hayden Tompkins

Hayden Tompkins — Tue, 20 May 2008 13:50:04 +0000

I spent the first 15 years of my life as a ‘boy’. I dressed like a boy, hung out with the boys, and acted like a boy – I guess they call that ‘tomboy’. It wasn’t until I was older that I thought I maybe wanted to be ‘feminine’, but by then it was too late. I felt like a pretender. And it felt awkward, like I was trying on someone else’s clothes.

What makes this kind of hysterical, is that I had DDDs. How does a girl with DDDs feel unfeminine?? I don’t know, but somehow I managed to do it.

I always felt like I was holding back. I tried not to be too aggressive, too assertive, too intellgient. I even had one guy dump me because he said I was “too smart”. !!!!! I wish I’d slapped him.

Anyway, it wasn’t until I met my husband that I really felt feminine. And why did I feel feminine? Because I didn’t have to hold any of my ’self back’. He wasn’t threated by my intelligence or assertiveness or badassery, and I could be those things fully with him.

Things that are considered ‘masculine’ are many things which I excel at. Confrontation? Debate? Argument? Aggressiveness? Assertiveness? Certainty? That’s a HELL YES to all of those.

And he thinks that I am adorable when I am chewing someone out. He doesn’t feel threatened by my assertiveness. And, surprisingly, I have become a less aggressive person for having been with him. Like, now that I can, I don’t really want to – or it isn’t necessary.

Hayden Tompkins’s last blog post..Words of Wisdom – Yoda

By: Hayden Tompkins

Hayden Tompkins — Tue, 20 May 2008 13:40:42 +0000

Hunter, can I just tell you how surprised and AMAZED I am? Last night I was finishing a book by someone I respect highly, someone who gave a speech that blew open my soul, when I read that you had been a student of his. What a small, freaking world. I can't explain why this makes me so happy, but it does. It really does. Hayden Tompkins's last blog post..Words of Wisdom - Yoda

By: Kip de Moll

Kip de Moll — Tue, 20 May 2008 13:03:15 +0000

Raised with 4 sisters, a strong mother and a successful, but "distant" father, I have way too much female energy. My next family was a wife and all daughters. Only now at 54 am I actively inviting the "male" to be more active in my life. New Warrior Training, bonding with buddies on the soccer field, a beer after work, my wife believes I'm having a "breakdown". I think it's a "break through" Kip de Moll's last blog post..Mt St Helen's Day

By: Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Map

Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Map — Tue, 20 May 2008 08:01:25 +0000

Ah...an intellectual discussion going on here....LOL! Most certainly, I do agree that all of us have a mix of both male and feminine characteristics. The mix is not equal in some cases. The intelligent one is the one who can understand this and use the trait that is most suitable to a situation, as you so accurately mentioned in your feedback. Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Map's last blog post..How To Be IRON WOMAN

By: Hunter Nuttall

Hunter Nuttall — Tue, 20 May 2008 03:01:31 +0000

Shilpan, I think it’s perfectly normal not to think about what gender you’re channeling. (It would actually be a little weird if you did!)

But maybe you’ll notice that when your usual mode of behavior isn’t working so well in a particular situation, you sometimes emulate someone who does well in such a situation. And you might notice that the person you’re emulating happens to be a member of the opposite sex!

By: Shilpan | successsoul.com

Shilpan | successsoul.com — Tue, 20 May 2008 02:49:03 +0000

Hunter, It may sound insane but I'm not conscious about my gender when I think or set goals etc. That makes it harder for me to imagine either side of the wall. You are though posing an interesting question. Hmmm... Shilpan Shilpan | successsoul.com's last blog post..Guest Post At AlexShalman

By: Hunter Nuttall

Hunter Nuttall — Tue, 20 May 2008 01:13:39 +0000

Well, as I expected, only the ladies are responding

@ Barbara, those are good examples of how this kind of thinking can be helpful, both in business and relationships.

@ Robin, I pretty much had to mention your post, as it fit in so well with things I’ve been thinking about lately. Sillyphophical? That’s a new one!

@ Vered, OK, no demoisturized guys for you!

@ Amanda, exactly, people need a core, or they would be all over the place. But they can balance their core with complementary energies to use when needed.